The Struggles of an ENFJ Girl and Insights on MBTI

A story about an ENFJ girl with depression and the discussions on MBTI and interpersonal relationships.

When I saw the numerous scars on the slender and long arm, I was extremely astonished. How could such scars be on a girl in the prime of her youth?

A female fan came to see me today after a two-hour drive. She had messaged me about meeting a year ago but had to take a leave of absence due to depression and was in a bad state, so we never got the chance. Today, she came to see me before going to the hospital to talk about her troubles and confusions and also to see my dog.

The girl, Xiao Ran, is an ENFJ. She is kind and considerate. She notices a cat stuck on an electric pole and doesn't leave until the cat is safe. She buys fruits for my parents and snacks for my dog and often complies with others' requests even if she doesn't want to.

We took a walk by the river. She loves the river view and wants to see the sunset. As we talked about MBTI, she said ENFJs are very concerned about others' opinions and easily influenced by them. She constantly cares about what others think and often falls into self-doubt.

I told her that the root of her pain is seeing the outside world as a unified whole that can dominate her. She needs to realize that the world is made up of diverse people with different qualities and views. Another problem is always blaming herself without realizing that those who judge her can also be wrong.

Just like my friend who was treated unfairly by some kids. Xiao Ran can tell right from wrong as an observer but gets into self-doubt when it happens to her.

As an INFP, I used to care about others' opinions but now I can distinguish between good and bad people. I don't let others' words affect me easily.

As we talked by the river, time passed quickly. Xiao Ran had to go back. I hope she can get better soon. Today's young people face more complex interpersonal relationships, greater academic and employment pressure, and a more rigid social environment. Mental health issues among young people need more attention.

Let's hope Xiao Ran can find her way out.