INFJ and the Quest for Love Happiness
Insights on how INFJ personalities can find happiness in love.
INFJ: Finding Happiness in Love
INFJ individuals appear gentle and refined on the surface but are deeply proud yet secretly vulnerable and self-abased. How can such people experience happiness in love? Throughout their lives, INFJs have had very few moments of being loved. As they grow up, feeling loved becomes a burden. Although they have a longing and yearning for love deep inside, they cannot break free from the cycle of inferiority and sensitivity. It always seems that no matter how well others treat them, it's either an illusion or they think it's a mistake on others' part. Even after being confessed to, INFJs are extremely doubtful and even torn. It's not that they doubt the other person's intentions but rather they are paying for past traumas and being overwhelmed by their own emotions, preventing themselves from loving the other person. This pattern is likely to develop into avoidant attachment, leading to panic and confusion in the dilemma of loving or not loving, bringing burdens to both parties in the relationship.
If you love an INFJ, be prepared to be challenged. Here are five ways to approach it. First, be sincere. INFJ can tell if you are sincere. They will take some time to test you. When it comes to love, INFJ is cautious. They won't joke with their lives. Sincerity can make INFJ lower their guard and bring the two people closer more quickly. Second, take the initiative. Even if INFJ has a good impression, they won't act rashly. They are a relatively passive type. If you don't take the initiative, you may miss a good opportunity. For INFJ, if their partner takes the initiative, it can make them feel more secure and needed. Third, be focused. Love is unique. INFJ hopes to be the light in their partner's eyes, making everyone else pale in comparison. INFJ pays close attention to details and will judge how much you care about them from these details. Fourth, be understanding. INFJ is empathetic and also hopes that their partner can understand them. Understand INFJ's joys and sorrows from daily communication. When INFJ shows vulnerability, their partner should not laugh at them but still love them and stand by their side. Being understood and being needed are equally important. Fifth, be stable. A flustered personality will make INFJ feel very insecure. Only a mature, stable, and wise person can win the favor of INFJ. Such a person can provide support and encouragement in all aspects of life and help INFJ make plans and progress together.