16 MBTI Types, Which One Are You?

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In 2020 - 08 - 14 at 17:37:43, a psychologist stated that if a person is keen on four things, it indicates a strong sense of control and a tendency to manipulate others. Everyone has a certain degree of control desire. According to psychologist Freud, control desire is actually a need to meet animal instincts - to survive and live better. The stronger our helplessness, weakness, and lack of security, the stronger our control desire tends to be. On the contrary, when we gain satisfaction, have self - confidence, and become extremely powerful, our control desire relatively decreases. In real life, many people may seem strong on the outside but are actually very soft and vulnerable inside. Therefore, there are a large number of people with a preference for control. If a person is enthusiastic about the following things, it often represents a strong control desire and a love for manipulating others and possessing everything. (1) Enjoying 'Self - Deification' Some people with strong control desires often exhibit narcissism. They constantly instill an idea into the 'controlled objects': being with me is your luck. They shape their own advantages in every detail of life, making those around them think that they are 'very powerful' and thus worship them, or even reach a state of infatuation. This behavior is a kind of 'self - deification', aiming to control others by making others worship. (2) Being good at suppressing those around them. If you always like to suppress those around you intentionally or unintentionally and like to 'find faults', you are also likely to have a controlling personality. For people with a controlling personality, suppressing others has become an instinct or a habit formed during the cultivation of personality. They can always find the shortcomings of others from various aspects and then attack them. Because through attacks, they can reduce others' self - confidence, make them have self - doubt, and lose self - confidence, thus making them easier to be manipulated. (3) Liking to show weakness and create a sense of guilt. There are also some people with strong control desires who like to manipulate others by showing weakness. Such people are often relatively weak and find it difficult to control others through suppression or 'self - deification'. Therefore, 'guilt' becomes their weapon. They often apologize, express their own misery, and even have tears in their eyes, making others feel guilty, becoming emotionally weak, and then being manipulated. (4) Being good at 'emotional/moral coercion'. People who like to control often excel at 'emotional coercion' or 'moral coercion'. Their catchphrase may be 'for your good'. For example, at a dinner party, some strong - willed people like to use phrases like 'not drinking is not a brother' and 'everyone has drunk, you can't lose face' to force others to comply. They hide their purposes behind 'great righteousness' and use moral, rule, and emotional concepts to achieve the purpose of oppressing and controlling you. Conclusion: Generally speaking, everyone needs a certain sense of control to deal with future uncertainties. But if the control desire is too strong, it will not only hurt others but also, most importantly, hurt oneself. Because you are no longer living for yourself but for a vague 'sense of control'.