INFJ: Masters of Boundary Sense

'Explore how INFJ personality types handle boundary issues in interpersonal relationships and how everyone can learn to have a sense of boundary.'

INFJ: Masters of Boundary Sense. Do You Have It?

Recently, a friend confided in me, 'I seem to have no boundaries of my own.' She is a gentle listener, always patiently hearing others' troubles. However, she is also a habitual people-pleaser, often unconsciously sacrificing her own interests to accommodate others. Over time, her sense of self becomes increasingly blurred, and she even begins to question her own worth.

In the field of psychology, this state is known as 'low personal boundaries', where a person is overly weak, prone to compromise, and unable to refuse others' requests, thus losing themselves.

In fact, everyone needs a certain sense of boundary. It is like a barrier when we interact with the outside world, helping to protect our inner world from unnecessary interference or harm.

For some people, establishing and maintaining good personal boundaries is not easy. They may have difficulty expressing their needs and feelings in interpersonal interactions due to personality traits such as introversion, shyness, or sensitivity. Or they may lack confidence and feel unworthy of respect and care, so they choose to endure injustice.

How can we become people with a sense of boundary? Perhaps we can find the answer in MBTI personality typology.

Among the 16 personality types, there is one type that is particularly good at handling boundary issues in interpersonal relationships - the INFJ personality.

As idealists, INFJs have a natural keen intuition and insight, able to quickly perceive the emotional changes and needs of those around them. At the same time, they also attach great importance to maintaining their inner world and are unwilling to let the outside noise disturb their spiritual home.

Therefore, when interacting with others, they always maintain a certain distance and independence. They can care about others' feelings while adhering to their own principles and bottom lines.

How do INFJs achieve this?

INFJs know how to set their boundaries. They understand that everyone has their own needs and expectations, and these needs and expectations often do not completely overlap. Therefore, they will first understand their own needs and bottom lines before interacting with others, and then set their boundaries based on this information.

INFJs are good at expressing their needs and feelings in a non-violent communication way. They know that direct conflicts often bring unnecessary contradictions and misunderstandings, so they prefer to solve problems in a gentle and firm way. They will first express their observations and feelings, and then put forward their needs and requests.

INFJs also have empathy to understand others' behaviors and motives. They know that everyone has their own difficulties and limitations, so they are more willing to consider problems from the perspective of others.

INFJs also know how to stick to their principles and bottom lines when necessary. Although they are usually very tolerant and inclusive, when it comes to their core values and interests, they will become extremely firm and decisive.

Of course, these are just some skills and methods that INFJs use to handle boundary issues in interpersonal relationships. It doesn't mean that people of other personality types cannot learn these skills. In fact, everyone has the potential to become a person with a sense of boundary as long as we are willing to learn and practice these skills and methods.

Are you ready to become a person with a sense of boundary? Let's work together!