Understanding the Upbringing of INTPs

Explore the common characteristics of families that raise INTPs and how it influences their growth.

What kind of family nurtures an INTP? The childhood and growth environment of INTPs are often characterized by several common traits among their less mature caregivers. First, there is emotional detachment. Caregivers seldom express emotions and rarely open up. When INTPs try to express their true thoughts, emotions, and emotional needs, they are often ignored. This leads to a lack of closeness and understanding between INTPs and their caregivers. It also makes INTPs pay less attention to their own emotions and find it difficult to express and resolve them. Second, many INTP caregivers are of the Se and Si types, especially combinations like STP and SFJ. When Se-dominant caregivers run the family, there is a lack of long-term planning. They are often not attentive to raising INTPs and seldom teach them life skills, causing INTPs to be overly detached from real life. Third, caregivers don't focus on social interaction and neglect cultivating INTPs' social skills. This includes caregivers themselves being uninterested or inept at socializing. As a result, INTPs lack opportunities to improve their interpersonal skills and are inexperienced in worldly affairs. Fourth, INTPs are naturally kids who need reasoning. When caregivers scold first and then reason after venting, INTPs resist and may rebel. They also become reluctant to seek help from parents when facing difficulties. Fifth, caregivers may be易怒 and 狂躁. INTPs find it hard to understand such outbursts using their logical analysis. This can be a shadow for INTPs, and they often have to soothe their angry caregivers with emotional means, which can be exhausting. Sixth, there is emotional blackmail. Caregivers use their sacrifices to morally bind INTPs and make them act according to their wishes, hindering INTPs' emotional development. Seventh, caregivers lack guidance. INTPs have small social circles and little guidance. They turn to books for answers. Most INTPs follow conventional career paths due to lack of social understanding. Eighth, some caregivers are emotionally controlling. They are pessimistic, anxious, and lack security. They destroy INTPs' confidence and independence through criticism and negation.