Understanding INFJ's Interpersonal Struggles and Path to Independence

Insights on why INFJ personalities get hurt in relationships and how to achieve clarity and independence.

Understanding Why INFJ Tends to Get Hurt in Interpersonal Relationships and How to be Sober and Independent

As an INFJ, I've often found myself pondering over why we seem to get hurt so easily in our relationships. After reading an article on an INFJ-focused blog, I gained some valuable insights.

The problem of one-sided giving without receiving equal treatment is a major source of pain for many INFJ individuals. We often overextend ourselves without being asked, and when there's no response or we face rejection or resistance, we are deeply affected. This happens because we don't clearly distinguish between others' and our own affairs. As a result, we are easily influenced by others in various situations, losing our vitality and becoming less action-oriented. We tend to overthink and be overwhelmed by emotions, getting lost in our own world.

It's crucial to remember that others' opinions of us shouldn't be so important. We give too much power to others over our selves. Even when it comes to those we deeply like, our personal will should remain intact. When using our 'Fe' function to interact with others, the premise is that we are independent individuals. When we are unable to distinguish between ourselves and others, true interaction is impossible. When we find ourselves in this state, we need to learn to cut off the emotional entanglement. Once we do this, others can no longer hurt us.

An INFJ can only avoid hurting others when we first avoid hurting and wronging ourselves. The author of this blog also discusses topics like dealing with issues in the original family and reconciling with parents, understanding the formation of INFJ's procrastination and how to improve our action ability, and how INFJ can replenish and release energy in daily life. If you're interested, it's worth checking out.