Understanding INFJ's View on Love
Insights into how INFJs perceive and approach love.
Understanding INFJ's Perspective on Love
INFJs are known for their high standards, not only for themselves but also for their romantic partners. Their view of love is unique and complex.
Equality in Love INFJs don't believe in a relationship where one person is stronger or weaker than the other. They prefer a love that is evenly matched. A healthy relationship, in their eyes, is one of mutual equality. INFJs don't expect special favors or excessive attention. They also hold back a part of themselves, reserving time and energy for their own personal growth. If the balance is disrupted, for example, if the partner is overly enthusiastic, INFJs may retreat. Returning such enthusiasm is not their forte.
Admiration for the Strong INFJs are attracted to those who are stronger, but this strength doesn't come from education, achievements, wealth, or family background. Instead, it's the kind of person who can provide emotional support and stability. INFJs tend to be more conservative in personality and may avoid those who are overly assertive. A mature partner who can offer a sense of security is highly valued.
Tolerance and Limits INFJs can be tolerant of flaws in a person they are attracted to. However, if they don't like someone, they will be quick to find faults. Their tolerance has limits, and they may quickly become impatient. Once the limit is reached, they may feel annoyance and disgust. For INFJs, the line between like and dislike can be very thin.
Romantic Moments For INFJs, romantic moments are not about grand gestures like candlelit dinners, roses, or chocolates. Simple things like having a meal together or being constantly by their side are precious. A silent companionship when they are sitting by the window at night can be very touching. A heartfelt hug is more meaningful than an expensive gift.
Handling Relationship Issues When facing emotional problems, INFJs can be impulsive. They may adopt a defensive stance. If they enter a relationship on a whim due to hormones, they may grow to dislike the other person and feel invaded. This may lead to behaviors like cold violence or sudden disappearance without explanation. This is not irresponsible behavior but rather an instinct stemming from their childhood experiences and upbringing.
Responsibility in Love Once in a relationship, INFJs take on a strong sense of responsibility. They may force themselves to do things they don't like for the sake of the relationship but may also lose control and become angry and then retreat. Their longing for an equal relationship can seem utopian. When love is lost, they may take on additional responsibility, even if they know the other person doesn't feel the same way. This makes it difficult to maintain true equality.
Long-Term Commitment When INFJs decide to like someone, it's usually a well-thought-out decision. They don't enter into relationships casually. As they age, the influence of hormones diminishes, and they become more rational and calm.