What are Different Levels of INFJs Like?
This article explores the characteristics of low-, medium-, and high-level INFJs, discussing their tendencies towards altruism, self-awareness, and the importance of a harmonious environment for their growth.
What are Low-, Medium-, and High-Level INFJs Like?
At the beginning of their development, INFJs often struggle with issues such as anger displacement, internal conflict, and avoidance. The root cause lies in their tendency to meet others' expectations, difficulty in expressing their own needs, and self-sacrificing altruistic behaviors. Essentially, INFJs seek to fulfill their need for harmony and a sense of belonging through altruism. However, in the early stages, they may not be aware of this and lack the courage to admit this inherent need.
When INFJs overextend themselves in altruism and don't receive the expected response, they may unconsciously get angry at others and fall into a spiral of internal conflict such as detachment and cold violence. Only by realizing that altruism is not an end in itself but a means of self-actualization can they truly transcend excessive altruism and balance their own and others' needs rationally.
INFJs need to understand that self-interest does not equal selfishness. By doing so, they can remove the self-imposed moral judgment when they have self-interested motives. This allows them to stop avoiding and bravely express their true needs.
As relationship-oriented personalities who are best at socializing among introverts, INFJs strive to maintain interpersonal harmony. They know that harmony is the foundation for them to gain a sense of belonging in families, teams, and social circles. Harmony also helps them conserve energy and focus on learning and work without distractions. When INFJs meet their need for belonging and create a trusting and supportive interpersonal atmosphere, they can nourish their vulnerable and sensitive inner selves and gain a sense of security, enabling them to be more willing to reveal their true selves.
A safe and harmonious environment empowers INFJs to maintain emotional stability and inner peace, enabling them to observe their true emotions and needs. In essence, a harmonious environment is most healing for INFJs and helps them find themselves.
INFJs should not be overly self-critical about being too emotional or overly concerned about external evaluations. The motivation to please and meet others' expectations is not just for others but also for themselves. INFJs need to be aware of the pitfalls of excessive idealism and excessive altruism, which can lead to self-exhaustion and make them vulnerable to being over-relied on, exploited, or hurt. They should also avoid environments full of confrontation and competition and remember that harmonious, cooperative, and altruistic environments and work are the most suitable for their growth.
In conclusion, INFJs need to recognize their strengths in being perceptive of others' needs and building harmonious relationships while avoiding excessive pleasing of others and protecting themselves from getting lost in meeting others' expectations.